Well, let me start by saying that I am so excited to soon-be releasing my first book, What Cootchie Wash Do You Use? 13 Life Lessons and Real-Life Dating Advice Learned from Online Dating. It has been a long few month getting everything set up. From writing the book to figuring out all of the ins and outs of self-publishing. Let’s just say that it has been a bit of information overload here lately.
I was thrilled when I finally received the proof of my interior format. In case you aren’t familiar, that means it is in the final stage before uploading it to Amazon.
Let me back up for a minute to explain something. My husband has been ALL in with the idea and entire process of writing a book since the beginning. He pushed me everyday to get it done. He would read chapters along the way and provide me with feedback. So, when I told him, this week, that I was delaying the release of the book… he was less than thrilled.
I was devastated about it. But I had no other choice. I found a few typos in the final layout and I just couldn’t allow it to go out like that! So, it now delays it AT LEAST two more weeks. UGHHHHH!!!
Since I had to delay the final release, I thought I would share an excerpt with you today:
Online-Palooza: Should I Even Ask?
When I finally made the decision to begin online dating… let’s just say I went all in! Even though I found talking to these people from my couch rather easy, a change was starting to happen in my life and I had to change with it… or so I thought. The change that occurred in my life was that my boys started going to their fathers’ house every other weekend. That’s when my next emotional roller coaster started. This is when I really started to struggle with the concept of being alone. I mean seriously, I didn’t know what to do with myself. I had always had family around or a significant other or my kids. I had never experienced this feeling before.
This made me start thinking about all the times I would see single people or people who I thought were single, out and about. I would see these people go to the movies by themselves, restaurants, casinos… you name it. As time went on, I started to notice them more and more. But I knew I was not confident enough to do any of those things A-L-O-N-E. So much for the fake, inflated self-esteem I thought I had from receiving all of those messages on the dating app. POOF… it was gone.
In the stillness, I was left with my broken, insecure, emotional self that I wasn’t ready to face yet. So, instead of dealing with it, I jumped no-holds bar into the dating scene. Before I get into it, I want to say that I am telling you this not because I am proud of what I did but so, maybe, it will help you avoid doing it. I was busy working my 9-5 job and being a full-time parent of two boys which also included juggling all of the sporting events and homework assignments that occurred during the week by myself. While all of this was keeping me busy, I knew that the dreaded “alone” weekend would enviably arrive. There I would be in a quiet, empty house; afraid to be left alone with my thoughts and myself. So, I started to avoid it at all costs and that is when I started my own version of speed-dating.
I can’t wait to share my online dating journey with you, in hopes, that what I have to share will help shorten your own online dating experience. I hope that I will be able to get it out sooner than I am expecting. Fingers crossed🤞🤞!
What has your online dating journey been like?
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