My Journey: Learning How to Love Myself
- Wendi Davis
- Jan 2, 2021
- 2 min read
My name is Wendi. I am a writer, online content creator, life coach and non-profit executive. More importantly, I’m a wife and mother to two teenage boys. I live in a suburb near Columbus, Ohio. It may sound like I’ve got my act together but the truth is I had to work really hard to get where I am today.
Let me tell you where I started…I grew up poor, I didn’t feel like I was good enough, smart enough or pretty enough. It is safe to say that I had extremely low self-esteem!
I then found myself in a 16 year long abusive relationship which led me to struggle with the way my body looked. I was also repeatedly told that no one would want me and that I was worthless.
At this point I felt worthless and had a serious inferiority complex….Any of this sounding familiar to you?
The struggle is real!!!!
But I was able to take myself from feeling like a zero to becoming my own hero! I became my own version of Super Woman!
CHALLENGES TO LOVING YOURSELF
I want to be clear here, this did not happen overnight! It took me nearly three decades to learn to love myself.
I had to work past old narratives running through my head telling me that I was bigger than I used to be and no one would find me attractive. It got to a point that I didn’t want to see what I looked like in the mirror.
Not to mention, I also had to overcome some serious abandonment and trust issues. Some of the questions that I would repeatedly ask myself: What’s wrong with me??? Why did everyone leave? Would I ever my life partner?
I started to value other people’s opinions over my own. It got to a point that I had a hard time managing my expectations for myself. In reality, I was sooo much harder on myself than I was toward others.
If I did ever find myself in a place where I thought I was starting to feel happy. I would self-sabotage myself. I would sit around and wait for “the other shoe” to drop.
CONCLUSION
I wanted to be happy myself. I craved a real, lasting relationship with a life partner. By working through my own process, I am now a BEAST to be reckoned with! I started practicing deep self-reflection techniques and focused my energies around the five “S’s,” as I call them now: Self-Image, Self-Awareness, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem and Self-Acceptance.
One day, I realized...I did it! I had overcome the challenges and fears of loving myself to become the person I always wanted to be.
I am self-confident, successful, and truly happy in every aspect of my life. I found my soul mate who loves and adores me. I have a career that I love and have more time to focus on my passions. I am more energetic and able to be present for my family and friends in a way that I was never able to do before! I now have a happier, healthier and more fulfilled life!
Do you struggle with any of the five “S’s” like I did?
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